Saturday, June 20, 2009

Smile, please!

I was recently at a Lakers party and had to take a picture of Trevor Ariza. Not for the obvious reasons like him being famous or just winning a championship, although I'm proud of him for those accomplishments.

What made me snap, snap on my camera was his lack of smiling and outward joy. I mean dang, for winning one of the highest honors in the country and being such a dope ass basketball player, you'd think he wouldn't be able not to show his pearly whites all da time...right?

How important is the way we present ourselves on the outside? Could you ever date someone who doesn't smile or always looks mad? Or, who never looks happy?

I'm not saying Ariza is that way. I don't know the guy to be real with you. However, I do know that in one night of partying with him and at a charity event, he looked bored out of his mind. Did he feel this way? My guess would be hell no.

It makes me think about how I'm presenting myself to others and wondering if I come off in that way. Often times we don't realize how others perceive us since we can't see ourselves. I know I can have my off days, but I definitely try to have a smile on my face most of the time.
Could I date a woman who looked bitchy or bored all of the time? No, because I truly feel if a person looks that way 24/7, then it's a reflection about how she feels on the inside.
I don't care how f-l-y you look or how bad your day is going. Make an effort to smile at someone even when you don't feel like it. Life's short and things could always be worse.
I'm just sayin'.

1 comment:

Rebecca said...

I once was told a story of how a little boy felt so down and alone one day, amonst a bunch of new kids at another new school. He was walking down the hallway on his way home and for no particular reason a girl looked at him and smiled. Then he smiled and continued to do so all the way to the bus, he then observed how everyone that he smiled at smiled also and they seemed lighter. Which in turn caused his spirits to lift. By the time he made it to the bus, he'd learned the power of one simple smile. Wonderful post, it's too bad this picture doesn't show this man learning such a powerful lesson.