I love individuals who live in the present, without grudges or past hurts. Ya know, the kind of person who always walks inside and says "hello" despite your history.
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I recently saw someone I hadn't seen in a while. We had drinks and had a nice time chatting. It was like the old days. There was no fighting, arguing, or drama. It was just us, some wine, and words. Peace. It makes me wonder why some of us are able to move beyond the past and forgive while others cannot seem to let go of anger.
I have an ex girlfriend who, at times, I would see in NY. Usually it was out at a club or bar in Manhattan. One night I saw her dancing next to me and when I went over to say hello, she responded by storming off.
What makes this situation different? Why do some of us walk away as opposed to simply saying "hey" in return?
In my opinion, it's not as simple as saying one person is still angry or hurt. I feel like that's too easy. When you genuinely care about someone, you'll push your Ego aside and be there for him or her. This includes family, lovers, and friends. There are peeps in my life who have hurt me time and time again, but I would be there if they needed me (except the crazy ones). Coo-coo is always an exception; Betty Boop can tell you all about that subject. You can't risk your health under any circumstances. That's not with this sistah is sayin'.
Let me break it down: screw the past, all we have is the present. When I saw my old friend last night after asking if she'd like to grab a drink, I was happy. I didn't hold on to all of the harsh words we said in the past by being rude or vengeful. I smiled and she smiled back.
Life's too short to be closed.