Wednesday, August 11, 2010

Chronicles Of A 20-Something - The Ex.

"Should I get back together with my ex boyfriend?"
"My ex girlfriend is suddenly being nice and wants to date again. Should I say yes?"
"He's saying everything right, but...I'm just confused."
"Yeah, we didn't work before, but maybe the timing was wrong."
"She knows me well and maybe this is as good as it gets."

(photo found here)

These are all questions and thoughts I'm sure most of us have had at some point in our me.

Can it work out after it didn't go so well in the past?

Only you can answer and figure this out, of course. But, trust me, I know it's tough. I've been spending time and hooking up with my ex girlfriend for the past month and it has been great. But, some of the same issues are still there that make it obvious we are not meant for each other. And to be real, no matter how old you are, it's confusing when love and sex is involved, which is okay. We're human. We feel all types of thangz.

Here's what I recommend doing if you're torn --


Just live your life and see what happens in the Present moment. Truth is, it's hard to figure out what you want. And that can change by the minute/hour/day/month. There's nothing worse than having regrets and wondering, later in life, "I wish we could have tried again."

Make mistakes. Do stupid shiznit. Embarrass yourself a little bit. At least you'll know without any uncertainty that you gave it all you had.

However, let me say this:

If you're considering going back to someone who doesn't treat you well or takes you for granted, then run out the door as fast as you can. You deserve the best and anything short of that should be a booty call!