Fathers and Daughters - To Touch or Not to Touch.

Welp, just when you thought Hulk Hogan and his daughter's incestuous relationship could get even more perverted, guess your pretty faces again.

Brooke gave a spicy pole dance at the Ocho Calle Latin festival in Miami two weekends ago and guess who was in the audience watching...and drooling. Yes, the great Hulk. Her nasty, sun tanned father.

"Of course I was there," Hogan told Life & Style. "I try to make it to as many of Brooke's performances as possible. I support her and everything that she does."

Gross. So gross. If I was giving a pole dance feet away from my father he would permanently move to the North Pole. His ass would get so far from me that I'd have to send Obama to get him back in the same state. Hulk Hogan should not want to be anywhere near his daughter when she's half naked. It's disturbing.

I'm all for fathers and daughters being affectionate, but this is going a little too far...right?

LeAnn Rimes - Gay Husband?

Oh, snap. Perez Hilton reported that a woman claiming to be the cousin of LeAnn Rimes' husband says he's into the menzies --"I mean, there were so many situations that happened when we were teenagers… He's gay. He's been gay since he was probably five."

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This made me wonder what I would do if I found out that the person I was with turned out to be the opposite sexual orientation. I would feel hurt and confused...and betrayed.

How do they not know if they like men or women? It's tough to swallow.

What do you think about this? Would you feel hurt or just glad that you're girlfriend or boyfriend finally told you the truth?

Dating - Does The Outside Matter?

Make-up may be my new true love.

It's beginning to become an obsession that I can't help but indulge. What's funny is the type of reaction I get from women and men when I have a full face of make-up on. And, when I have my hair down and out Angela Davis style.

Strange how the outside effects people.

Yet, it makes sense. Since all we have is the outside to go by, that's where we look. but, here's the question --

Why does make-up, clothes, and hair matter so much?

Why do these things attract a certain type of fella or woman who would otherwise not hit on you if you looked different the night before?

I think it's a hard question to answer. Because part of it is attraction, just basic attraction. But, part of it is also an image. Wanting to be with someone who will fit into your hot requirement.

But, let's face it, sometimes we can't help what packaging catches our eye. If I got a gold ring and it was wrapped in newspaper, I would be reluctant to open it. But, if it was wrapped in beautiful silver, slick paper, I'd be hella excited!

So, maybe we're like wrapping paper. Maybe it's all about how we package ourselves to the public. I don't blame people for it, because I am the same way.

But, what I've found is that no matter how beautiful someone is on the outside, that doesn't guarantee the same beauty on the inside.

What attracts you?

Word to that.

Recessions and Young Peeps and Jobs.

We're in a recession. That's for sure.

As I went on yet another interview this month, I realized that this whole being an adult thang is tougher than I thought it would be. Sure, everyone tells you --

"One day you'll have to get a job, ya know, and pay your own bills."

Sure, I've heard it, but it's easier said than done. I feel lost, as times, about how to get from A to B to C when I haven't truly learned the alphabet.

There are many young peeps in my shoes. Who did everything they were told -- worked hard, got excellent grades, stayed out of trouble -- and still find themselves in a hole. Find that they can't get a job or struggle to pay the bills each month without their parents' help.

This is a reality for many folks, young and old. But, for the peeps who are learning how to make it, such as myself, it's a tough time.

However,

It's a great time as well. A great time for getting thick skin and reaching way down deep to see how strong we are. That we can survive and make it on our own.

I've been in California for a while now looking for work and it hasn't happened yet. But, that's okay. What has happened is that I'm discovering myself. I'm writing more because I have more time. And, when I stop focusing on how to get a job or pay the bills, I realize that I am happy.

Just because you may be broke and jobless doesn't mean ya gotta be unhappy.

I have another interview coming up next week, which is for an assistant position. We'll see what happens. Stay strong, all of you, who are struggling. There's hope.

A Conversation - Does Age Really Matter?

Can two people with many years between them have a successful relationship?

I don't really know to be honest, peeps. I want to act like age doesn't matter, of course. I'm a romantic! But, the more and more I date older women and think about it, the more skeptical I am. I feel like the older woman or man will inevitably be condescending and have a "go-see-the-world" mentality, which can be very dismissive. However, you never know.

Everyone is different.

Now, one thang's for sure. Someone who is 12 and trying to date a 25 year old won't work. Plus, that's nasty...right?

But, I'm talking about someone my age who is in their mid 20s trying to date someone in their 30s. Can it work? I haven't been able to wrap my head around this subject. So, I've been asking my friends:

Friend 1: "A young woman has so many things to experience in her life that I don't want to take away from them. There is no replacement for experience. Because if I'm 43 with a 23 year old, I'm impatient with her mistakes. And, then there's that aspect of molestation which I can't stand."
I nod my head, thinking she's making excellent points except for the one about molestation.
Friend 2: "I think it depends on the people. I'm 35 and went out with a 38 year old. I thought that it would be awesome because we're around the same age 'n all. But, she acted immature as hell and never wanted to commit to anything."
Friend 3: "For fuck buddies it works, but not a relationship. Unless it's like love at first sight and your insecurities can't even keep you apart."

Insecurities.

This is a big one. It ruins many relationships and keeps us from loving individuals every freakin' day. They make us think too much with our head instead of our heart.

I admire Lauryn Hill and her song, "To Zion --"

Unsure of what the balance held/I touched my belly overwhelmed/By what I had been chosen to perform/But then an angel came one day/Told me to kneel down and pray/For unto me a man child would be born/Woe this crazy circumstance/I knew his life deserved a chance/But everybody told me to be smart/Look at your career they said/,"Lauryn, baby use your head"/But instead I chose to use my heart/Now the joy of my world is in Zion.

She listened to her heart. What if we all were like that? What if we had a "screw it" attitude...maybe things like age and sex wouldn't matter...maybe we'd all be happier.

I remember watching After Sunset with Ethan Hawke and thinking how I don't want to be like him and the woman he's in love with. When they were younger they met in Paris and had sex twice. And, over the past 9 years, they've been too stubborn to find the other person. . . to just be happy and in love. And when they finally met after so many years have passed, when they both have lovers, it's just like yesterday. It's like a moment hasn't passed in the time they were apart. And, in the end, they end up getting back together.

Fear.

We let it grab us by the throat and choke us everyday. Why not give in and see what happens, even if it means a massive amount of heartache?

Pablo Neruda.

Hola,
After the rejection of this week I am back to my usual, motivated self. Met a woman who will one day be a huge part of my life. On that note, I'm feeling romantic and want to share one of my favorite poems with you:

"If You Forget Me"

I want you to know

one thing.

You know how this is:
if I look
at the crystal moon, at the red branch
of the slow autumn at my window,
if I touch
near the fire
the impalpable ash
or the wrinkled body of the log,
everything carries me to you,
as if everything that exists,
aromas, light, metals,
were little boats
that sail
toward those isles of yours that wait for me.

Well, now,
if little by little you stop loving me
I shall stop loving you little by little.

If suddenly
you forget me
do not look for me,
for I shall already have forgotten you.

If you think it long and mad,
the wind of banners that passes through my life,
and you decide
to leave me at the shore
of the heart where I have roots,
remember
that on that day,
at that hour,
I shall lift my arms
and my roots will set off
to seek another land.
But
if each day,
each hour,
you feel that you are destined for me
with implacable sweetness,
if each day a flower
climbs up to your lips to seek me,
ah my love, ah my own,
in me all that fire is repeated,
in me nothing is extinguished or forgotten,
my love feeds on your love, beloved, and as long as you live it will be in your arms
without leaving mine.

Pablo Neruda

Dating - Getting Rejected.

"I don't feel like there's a love connection."

Those are the words I heard last night by a lovely woman, even after we kissed and had a great date. It left me feeling confused and hurt. But, I appreciated the honesty.

And, I appreciate how much time I saved.

To be real, when someone turns you down it doesn't feel good. But, knowing how the other person feels is great because it allows you both to be on the same page.

As I learn more about dating and what I'm looking for, I begin to realize that rejection doesn't reflect on how amazing I am as a person. It just means I ain't meant to be with that particular person.

This is a part of life. With some we'll have chemistry and with others, it may not be there. Are you dating anyone who you know, deep down, ain't the one for you? Consider breakin' it down and telling him or her the truth.