Dating - Red Flags!

Question: What do you do when you're dating a great person, but you see red flags blinding your vision?

Now, I'm not talking about the kind of red flags where the person kills some folks or robbed their mother. That's an automatic disqualification.

Here's what I mean:
*You like to communicate and express your feelings and they "don't believe in that crap."
*You want kids, but they hate 'em. May even think kids are no better than the devil.
*You're financially independent and they have no intention of ever spending any money other than their parents.

These are things that don't seem to matter at first because everything is wonderful. He or she can do no wrong. You guys never fight and it's all about taking each others clothes off and forgetting the rest. I get it. I'm a sucka for a nice rack and a big booty. But, what do you do after six months when you're not always having sex?

OR

What do you do when you're on the first date sitting across from the person you're interested in and they say, "I'm really focused on work and everything else takes a backseat?" Here are the options:
(A) Get up and leave.
(B) Smile, finish the meal, and never talk to the person again before you get hurt.
(C) Say it doesn't matter and proceed to fall madly in love.

You're free to pick whichever one you want, but I'm definitely going with option (B). Yes, I've only known this person for a little amount of time and yes, this may be our first date, but I can't handle not getting the attention I deserve. Obviously this is easier said than done because I find myself in this predicament.

I met a woman recently and had a nice date with her. But, she's completely consumed by work and barely has time to breathe. In the weeks that I've known her, when I send a text, either she takes a day to respond or doesn't respond at all.

AND

She is best friends with her ex-girlfriends. Now, I'm all about being on good terms and friends with previous partners, but not besties.

But, let's really break it down. We can save ourselves a lot of hurt if we walk away at the first sign of incompatibility. I'm not one to talk, trust me, but I'm getting better at listening. Bottom line is, it's hard to leave when our heart is saying otherwise. But, is it worth falling into a pile of hot coals and melting away when you shouldn't have jumped in the first place?

Some will say that the scars are worth it. Others, bitter and resentful for getting their hearts broken, will say the opposite. I say love. Love hard. But, you can love hard and be smart about it. When you see that red flag, take a moment to ponder. Wonder if it's worth overlooking and dealing with after you've fallen in love or perhaps make yourself peace the hell out and run away. There are over 6 billion people in the world. Many of them without any flags.

But, just because it's red doesn't mean you have to stop. However, be prepared to pay the ticket if you get caught...

What's On Your List?

Yo, I forgot to post this pic of me and Derek Fisher (one of the Lakers).

I think, if I dated men, I'd go for him. He's more my height and dresses right!

Being next to him made me realize I like someone with good manners. He's a true gentleman and it shows from his history on teams and in his family.

So, good manners is going on my list of Musts when it comes to dating. What's on your list?

Robin Williams Going Under Da Knife!

Chop, chop.

(Photo found on http://www.robinwilliams.com/)

Robin Williams will undergo open heart surgery for an aortic valve replacement. Let's wish him well, folks.

On the real, I'm surprised. He's so young. Dang, does it really all go down hill by the time you're 50 or so?

It makes me want to go running everyday and start to take salt out of my diet, like that judge on American Idol.

I'm young now, but dang, what's going to happen in the future when I am older and the world is even more polluted not to mention all of the extra chemicals I'm sure we'll see being put into our food.

Sigh.

Who am I kidding? I can't predict life. I may die tomorrow, or I may live 110 years. So, maybe living in fear isn't the best idea.

Off to get a cheeseburger.

Ex-boyfriends/Ex-Girlfriends.

Being friends with an Ex. . . does it work?

I Should Be Blind.

Welp, American Idol announced this season's top 13 finalists. One of them being Scott MacIntyre, a charming blind guy.

(Photo found on http://www.flickr.com/photos/techiemommie/3198639248/)

Sigh. It breaks my heart to say it. Okay, no, it actually doesn't. Straight up, he can sing as good as he can see. I can't help but ask myself, what's it all about, Alfie?

Was it out of pity, guilt, or not wanting to feel bad if he was kicked off that he's still on? You know the judges were like, "if we don't put this fool on the show, we'll get sh*t from America and our mothers."

To be honest, peeps, I can't say that I wouldn't do the same thing. I'm all about not going to bed feeling guilty. The fool can't see and he has the courage to come on American Idol, one of the most judgmental and scariest shows to be on (after True Beauty and The Bachelor). I'd look at Scott and give him the whole, "you're going to Hollywood" line and leave it to America to vote him off. I don't want the guilt when I go to the grave that I was the one who took a vision impaired man's dream away.

Maybe because we know, deep down, that he can see us. . . if we're willing to look.

The Lakers - Volunteer.

So, I had a great time yesterday. Got some sun at the Riviera Country Club in Pacific Palisades and offered my time for a good cause.

Being young and willing to give your free time has its perks.

Me and the Laker Gurls.

Me and Sun Yue

Me and Phil Jackson

Me and L.A.'s main Wheather Girl

Me and Luke Walton

Me and Kobe Bryant

Me and Sasha Vujacic

Me and Lamar Odom

Me and Andrew Bynum

Me and Pau Gasol

Me and Guy from Talk Soup (Joel McHale)

Me and A few Lakers Championship Trophies

Me and James Worthy

Me and Kenny Lofton (famous baseball player)

I had a great time!

Volunteering is a great way to meet peeps and network. If you're single and young, consider joining popular organizations and giving your time to charity events. You'll meet folks and have fun as well.

Date Time.

Gotz A date tomorrow night. The pen will have to be put down for a second!

So, I'm a little nervous, peeps. Why? Because I'm used to being the one who is in control. The one who asks out a woman and always feels like I have a handle of my feelings. With this situation, she's older (my weakness) and very assertive. When women get this way, I get shy. Mucho.

Here's another thang. She likes me. She isn't playing games (which is what I'm used to). She's acting like she likes me without any manipulation or confusion. It's refreshing, but also something new...something I'm not used to in my life.

It's like being put in an ocean at night and told to swim back home. If I can't see home, how do I get there?

You feel me, right? We all get nervous sometimes. I blush at least once a week, and that's okay. This date will be nice. Yeah, there are risks, like:

1) She may be crazy.
2) She may be crazy.
3) She may be crazy.

But, you know what, that's what life's all about. We're all imperfect in some way...some way more than others!